Dr. Emily Jamea

Dr. Emily Jamea Speaking Topics

• Five Secrets of Lasting Intimacy

  Research shows, and Emily Jamea's bestselling book explores, how five qualities -- Sensuality, Curiosity, Adaptability, Vulnerability, and Attunement -- are keys to sustaining emotional and sexual intimacy that stands the test of time. She has interviewed dozens of highly satisfied couples about what keeps the emotional and sexual components of their relationship strong, and it was these five themes that emerged. Her research participants explained how they stayed connected with each of these components despite life’s ups and downs and even through major health concerns. What she found particularly encouraging about these qualities is that they already exist within us.

  We are born as sensual, curious, adaptable, and vulnerable beings, and we are hardwired to attune to one another. Despite our best efforts, we often succumb to social conditioning, the influence of culture and religion, and the impact of negative experiences, which threaten to strip us away from these inherent traits. This workshop is therefore not about becoming someone you’re not; it is about reconnecting with qualities that already exist within you.

  Participants will be able to:

  • Understand the nature of each quality
  • Learn how to tap into each quality within themselves
  • Use tools to strengthen each quality within their relationships
  • Apply strategies to cultivate each quality to enhance sexual satisfaction and pleasure

• Optimal Sexual Connection: The Power of Flow

  A “flow state” describes the state of mind we enter when we are so fully engaged with an activity that we experience total absorption, rapt attention, a sense of unity and merger, and dilution of time. Think of a surfer who describes feeling “at one” with the wave or a group of musicians who seem to effortlessly play music that isn’t planned. "Flow state" is a decades old term and has primarily been studied in the arts and athletics. Until now.

  Emily Jamea initiated a first-of-its-kind study examining the relationship between "flow state" and great sex. She found that the most sexually satisfied couples experience a "flow state" when they make love. What’s more, being able to enter a "flow state" predicted great sex. Her findings completely transformed the way she treats her clients. Armed with new tools to enhance pleasure, satisfaction, and desire, she will teach workshop participants how to:

  • Deepen their understanding about the difference between mediocre sex and optimal sex
  • Identify and differentiate between the eight components of flow
  • Apply tools to hack each component in a way that transforms one’s sexual experience
  • Understand data busting the myth that great sex lasts only as long as the honeymoon phase

High Achieving Couples: Connection over Conflict

Conflict about career choices takes the lead as one of the most common causes of divorce. Both a meaningful career and a strong romantic partnership are keys for well-being, but tension between the two—especially when both partners strive to excel in both —threatens to disrupt the balance. This talk explores how our childhood experiences shape the role we take on in both our career and romantic partnership, an understanding that provides a valuable framework for self- and relational awareness. It also sheds light on deeper unmet needs based on specific complaints about one’s partner’s work. This information is presented against the backdrop of sociocultural and gender specific messaging about work.

Participants will:

• Leave with strategies for making meaning while making money
• Apply tools to balance living in the now with ambition and vision
• Identify the link between their childhood role and the one they take on in work and in their romantic partnerships
• Understand how sociocultural expectations about career success
• Develop a shared vision for both romantic and career success

The Nature of Sexual Desire

Desire remains the most common yet complicated issue that sex therapists treat. It is influenced by individual, relational, and environmental elements. It is dynamic, rarely holding steady, and is shaped by our sociocultural upbringing and gender differences. This talk unpacks the nature of sexual desire. Understanding desire is a key to connecting more deeply and authentically with both oneself and one’s partner.

Workshop participants will:

• Understand the similarities and differences between male and female sexual desire
• Link desire to other components of sexuality like arousal and orgasm
• Identify the unique components that shape their own sexual desire
• Leave with strategies to discuss desire with their partner as well as enhance pleasure and satisfaction

Dating in the Digital Age

We’re living in a time where a swipe, a like, or a message can spark connection—or confusion—in an instant. Modern day single men and women face unique challenges that often makes them feel at odds with each other. Is it okay to reach out and touch my date? Will he ghost me? These concerns inhibit well-meaning singles from forming meaningful connection. Technology has changed not just how we meet, but how we communicate, connect, and build relationships. This talk explores how to navigate the dating world with clarity, curiosity, and a deeper understanding of what it really means to connect.

Workshop participants will:

• The unique dating issues experienced by men and women
• Develop strategies to circumvent some of these issues
• Overcome fears of rejection and develop greater acceptance of others to maximize their chances of dating success
• Get a crash course in dating in the real world so they don’t completely depend on apps